When you have a victim mindset you do not see what you are feeding life into.
Some of us work at jobs where it started out good then hell breaks loose and it seems those who befriended you at the beginning for some reason starts hating on you. It seems certain people start finding ways to show you in a bad light.
Without realizing your own behavior changing you start telling yourself, “Why me?”, “Why does no one treat me good anymore?”
Everyday you try to smile but it just feels like your only smiling not to show what kind of pain your in. Then you stop talking to your co-workers and you find out the only people you talk to are the one’s who are complaining about their job. You feel so sad that you are not appreciated but you forget how you have changed your behavior. You do not see what has change you when you gave life to pity asking yourself, “Why me?”
This kind of story happen to me when I didn’t speak up to deal with my problems. I started giving life to my own pity, “Why me?” Everyday I didn’t see how my own behavior change and the people I choose to talk to there was no solutions but complaints. Then someone held the mirror of truth and I saw how I was the complainer. I was the one who had no solution to my complaints.
What change me from pitying myself?
I saw I was feeding pity instead of problem solving. I was feeling sorry for myself because I wasn’t facing my challenges in life with solutions. So I made a decision. I decide to stop feeding pity and start giving life to appreciation. Appreciate the people in my life that like to see me at my best performance. Appreciate the opportunity to show I have the talent and abilities to get results.
How showing my appreciation & being grateful has change everything. My smiles are no longer covering pain. My smiles are more genuine showing I am truly happy & grateful.
Sometimes in life it is easy to feel sorry for oneself instead of seeing there is a problem to solve and you have the abilities to find that solution.
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