Learning to let go is one of the hardest thing that I have found to be very emotional. Through my life experiences I have seen how letting go is a way for your own growth of being. I will share with you some techniques that help me with the process of letting go through my life experiences.
In your daily life making the decision to grow can be an easy one or a hard one.
When I was very young realizing that my parents are struggling financially. This was when I just learned in math how to multiply and I was very curious about why we kept moving every few years. Now your thinking what does this have to do with letting go. Well you see when you find out at a young age the why behind your situation you start seeing that their are solutions to your situation. Also, since each year at school I would learn something new and I would see my own growth by what I have achieved that year.
But you still ask, “What does that have to do with letting go?” The answer is simple, Outside looking in. I didn’t realize till now that my technique I used to get through my family’s dysfunction was an Outside Looking in technique.
I didn’t allow myself to enter the chaos my parents were going through. I didn’t want to be like them not knowing how to solve your problems especially when I found out they weren’t good with their money.
Because every few years my dad would be laid off from the unions or my mother would blow the rent money just to go to Disneyland. Seeing the anxiety my mother had just to search for new homes and the disappointment my father would show that he couldn’t provide a stable life for his family. I felt sad for my parents because they seemed so lost. Even when I was excited about what I learned in math and trying to help them make a budget. They still refused any help from me and others. They really wanted to provide but they weren’t allowing anyone in to help them find a solution.
Each time we had to move we had to sell our clothes, toys or furniture just so we can make some extra money to have enough for the rent. Every year I noticed how much I didn’t want to lose or sell any of my items. I wanted to hang on to what I really cherished to have in my room. So many items or clothes I love to keep but that wasn’t the case I had to let go of those items. I remember feeling like if I let go of the item I will no longer have that memory a part from me. I really felt that the items was linked to a memory so I didn’t want to let go. But it got to the point where my parents lost everything a home to live in and not having a job to provide for the family.
So one day my aunt convinced my parents to move out a new state and start fresh. Find a job, a home and buy the items they need to start their life over again. The move was a big step for me because now I was having to let go of friendships and family that I will no longer see on a daily or yearly basis.
I was having to let go of my old life. I was having to welcome a new life that I didn’t know what to expect. I did not allow myself to welcome such a fresh start. I cried, I yelled, but I had to go. I had to let go and move forward. It was so hard for me to see that sometimes you have to make a hard decision that will be better for your future.
Letting go is a way to move forward on your path of successfully seeing your own growth and that the new experiences you face is to help you obtain your true potential. Allowing yourself to let go and welcome a new beginning is one of the best ways that help me see that I can still keep the memories I experienced but I don’t have to cling on to the items or situations that no longer serve me.
This technique Outside Looking In approach has help me find solutions to my situations a lot easier then getting swallowed by the chaos.
The other technique of Allowing Oneself has made the process of letting go a lot easier to deal with when faced with a difficult decision.
The last technique Moving Forward helped me with taking action. Taking those steps forward and staying determined to keep moving forward truly has help me be more purposeful with my actions.
Each day you are able to walk your path. The only question is are you going to stay stubborn and not allow any one to help you? or Are you going to see that you do need a solution, you can get help and everyday you have a chance to move forward on your path.