I love stories that bring a twist to them especially when you really start getting to the juicy part.
I always wonder how these manipulators feed off of others. It always felt to me I was being feed on.
Then I saw how much attention I was giving their behavior whether it was good or bad. Whether I was fighting with my words or telling them good job for doing their part.
In the workplace setting you have so many people with their own stories. Even those who don’t know how to handle their own character.
By putting blame onto others or out right finding ways to discredit another person.
Then you have to ask yourself this, “How often have you blame others even when you had no intention to try and go out of your way to hurt them.”
How many times has it come up in your life you pointed the finger to someone else but yourself?
Manipulators do not need to go out of their way. You see they have others in their life who will do the hard work for them.
Blame is a great tool for a manipulator to use. Because they will exploit the same truth in you as you point out your finger toward them or the situation. Then what happens?
Everyone looks at you pointing the finger but how can this be true. How are you blaming if you are just pointing out what they are doing?
How are you so sure others see what they are doing?
Think of yourself with superpowers of seeing the hidden messages that the manipulators like to send to you or to others. Remember it is their game. Your just caught up in it (Whether you want to play or not).
How will you show others if all what starts happening is pointing fingers to one another?
If you ever pointed your index finger remember you have more pointing back at you.
Also note, even when you are standing up for yourself once you point the finger to another the manipulator will just copy you finding more ways to get other people to notice you instead of them.
When you take out the emotion of what you are feeling when encountering a situation of blaming one another. You start to see how child like your action or even their action is being.
If you ever played on a playground or was around others at a young age what happens when things are literally being pointed out?
Fingers are extended then the words follow
Maybe even tears.
When you take a glance at what the actions are showing. Blaming one another is so easy why is it difficult to see what you are doing?
What helped me remember is once I wanted or even pointed out my finger I asked myself this, “How many more are pointing back at me?.”
Dealing with a manipulator is no fun at all especially when there is a small truth of what is being pointed out about you. This is the best time to remember you are not that child pointing fingers but you can be that adult to work on holding yourself accountable to the truths you do have to work on.
This helped me realize if I point out one problem of a person then I have problems pointing back at me. I must acknowledge the truth of the matter by working on one each day.
Bettering yourself starts with accountability, staying determined to be grown and remember it is okay to work on oneself & see problems arise. It just means you are getting the practice to overcome any issues.
Plus have fun with the manipulator find the truth of their lies and work on those truths and always remember acknowledge their somewhat kindness it helps tremendously for them to be on their good behavior with you.
You are grown, loved and supported.
I believe in you, I am proud of you and may your heart be filled with JOY!